If you find yourself in a hopeless state, where you feel like your heart has in fact become hard and you have developed this sort of a problem. Sometimes the religious personality or the appearance of the religious personality is very intimidating. It's hard to talk to them. You are scared to be around them, because you know they are gonna talk down to you about something. Right?! You are afraid of them.
Sisters that dont wear hijab, they cross the street and go the other way.
"Oh... there she comes again - 'hijab police' or she's gonna tell me something. She's gonna say something, make me feel bad'
Right!? Now on the one hand, that is paranoia. But on the other hand sometimes it is true. There are people that are very condescending to others. They are arrogant towards others. Tell me this, weren't you a party animal not too long ago? And when people tried to tell you about it, how did you behave towards them? Did you forget where you came from? How far Allah brought you. Right!? People forget that!
People forget where they used to be and where Allah brought them and then years later, they see someone who is a party animal and they say,
"Astaghfirullah, how could he be like that"
Where were you?! That guy should remind you of yourself. You were exactly like that. So you should remember Allah's favor upon you.
"...And you were on the edge of a pit of the Fire, and He saved you from it..." (3:103)
And you got pulled back and it wasn't because of you. It's not because you're a really smart person and that's why you deserve to be pulled back. Whose favor was it to you? It was Allah's favor to you. How dare you look at somebody else and think like that? This arrogance is a horrible thing. It will wipe out all the goodness out of you. And it is, most of the time our youth who end up into heated debates about whatever if it's a theology issue, if it's a fiqh issue... I don't care what the issue is, it doesn't even matter!
You know usually what the root problem of that debate is?
It's EGO.
It's really a BIG EGO.
That's all it is.
People talking about scholars like they are talking about some athlete.
'You know that guy? I don't like him, i don't like what he says!'
Excuse me! Do you know what journey he made for the sake of Allah? Even if you disagree with him, the fact that he left his home, whoever that scholar is, and traveled halfway across the world to seek knowledge and spent nights praying and memorizing and studying. You are gonna just pass a comment on him like, 'I don't like what he says, I think he is a deviant.'
How dare you?! What have you done?! What put you in that position to be able to say that? And you know, if you disagree with a Muslim and you think they are wrong, what should be your first attitude towards them? You should pass a verdict on them that they are headed to hell or should you genuinely be concerned for them? And if you were genuinely concerned for them, you wouldn't talk to anybody else about them. Who would you talk to? Themselves. You would go to themselves. If there was sincerity in you, you would address your concerns to them. Not to anybody else.
If you talk to anybody else, this shows lack of sincerity, this shows ego. This shows you've got your team, you're rooting for your side and you're just gonna make comments about the others.
That's immature.
Arrogant.
Egotistical.
This is what it is!
Arrogant.
Egotistical.
This is what it is!
-Ustaz Nouman Ali khan
